With spring finally here, I feel like there has been an influx of new babies and more babies coming soon! (No joke, there's been about five babies born in my little circle of friends and two more on the way).
In my tiny kitchen, I have a few homemade blankets to give and have been putting together a few meals, so I thought I would give some ideas to what new moms actually need and want. I remember how hard it was when I first had Henry (just the fact alone that I could barely walk made it hard).
Put down those cute little baby outfits down because here's what a new mom honestly wants, once that baby comes!
A good meal.
The last thing that anyone wants to worry about when a new baby is around to hold, feed, cuddle, change diapers and a million other things, is cooking. A simple nutritious meal to give is the way to go. This is probably one of the best things you could do for any mom, whether it's the first babe or the 5th. There's a reason why food is its own love language.
Strapped to find a good recipe? This is my favorite cookbook for vegetarian meals. It actually has ingredients that I know and nothing is too over the top or complicated. You can't go wrong.
One of the greatest things a friend did for me when Henry was first born, was clean my apartment. I was embarrassed by the notion, even hesitant the first time she came over. I felt so lazy just standing there but my husband was at work and I couldn't bend over (thanks c-section).
I do best when spaces are clean, things put away but with a new baby to take care (a.k.a. no sleep), it was pretty difficult. I was ever so grateful.
But instead, spare your friend the embarrassment and call a cleaning service. That way they'll be no judgement and she'll get extra snuggle time with that new baby of hers.
Midnight (or really whenever) snacks.
For my first Mother's Day, my niece and nephews gave me a very LARGE bag of chocolates and they were heaven sent. I kept them right next to the rocking chair in Henry's nursery. When I woke up in the middle of the night to feed Henry, I plopped one of those delicious chocolates in my mouth and smiled instead of feeling grumpy.
Now realistically, most moms that I have talked to get on a health kick the second baby is out. Why not send a few months of organic snacks to a new mom's front door? Naturebox to the rescue! She'll love Praline Pumpkin Seeds, French Vanilla Almond Granola and Mini Belgian Waffles. They'll send her a delicious box filled with healthy treats to her exact tastes.
Any type of pampering.
This is pretty much a given. New moms carried a baby for nine months, then delivered that baby, are getting hardly any sleep and practically every single moment is spent taking care of that baby. Hello??? She needs a break and someone else to take care of her. A massage, which is something quiet and peaceful without baby for an hour or two would be so divine.
A brand new dress.
My mom told me of a friend whose mom bought her a new dress after every single baby. The woman was on baby number five at the time, of what ended up being eight children total. As we talked about it, it seemed like the perfect gift and here's why: There's nothing like finally finding 10 minutes to get ready while baby is asleep and then realizing you have nothing cute to wear. Help make a new mama feel like she has it all together with a new dress! Plus, with so many people coming to see that little babe, she'll want something new and special to wear.
Before I had a baby, everyone used to tell me that you run on the baby's schedule. It couldn't be more true. There are nights when new moms will magically get sleep and then other nights that they'll be up all night long. For that reason, no hard commitments is a perfect idea. There will be times she'll want to go out, but then there will be times she just needs to cancel and stay in pajamas all day.
The best no commitment gift? Telling her that she doesn't need to write you a thank you note. Instead, know that she appreciates it but needs the extra time with her baby.
Above all else, she wants you to cheer her on.
There's nothing like fear creeping in and saying that you're not a good mom. Truth is, there needs to be a learning curve. It's the hardest, most rewarding, largest blessing that any woman can go through. Every new mom really just wants you to cheer her on and say that she's a wonderful mother. The best thing you can say to a new mom is, "You've got this!"
What are your go-to gifts for a new mom?